I cried when my husband asked me what I was doing today: The woman listed all the jobs and invisible obligations that no one admits

The other day, my husband asked me how my day is over. I listed all the things I did and even though there was a lot of it, again it seemed to me that it was not enough.

After I listed the things that I did it at work, I listed the things I did around the house after work and again it seemed too little, and here’s what I actually did.

I changed three children, packed three lunches, served three breakfasts, packed everything in a car, stored laundry for five people. All that before nine. Then I went to work, where I worked non-stop, except that during a quick lunch break I called the doctor to schedule an examination for myself and my husband, writes journalist Konz Preti.

After work, my husband and I went to pick up the children. Then I entertained the children and cooked dinner at the same time. Unfortunately, I couldn’t sit down to eat, but I put a couple of bites in my mouth while the twins were scratching my ear. Then I changed them all into pajamas, read them bedtime stories and put them to sleep.

When they fell asleep, I cleaned the house, picked up the toys, washed courts and then cried.

What am I trying to say? Parents do a lot of invisible work. Parents who work eventually do another shift of housework. It was even worse during the quarantine. At the moment I feel like I have three jobs – my real job, babysitting and housekeeping.

I am a unit, and yet my mother had help at home even though she was a housewife. Both grandmothers came regularly to look after me, and my mother also had a wife who cleaned the house. When I try to explain to my mother how different I live, like many parents in America, she just doesn’t understand. My husband and I, like many other couples, don’t have grandparents to jump in, and we don’t have the money to hire someone to help us.

A worst of all is that my husband and I are far from being bad compared to others. Our children go to school – many children are in online classes. I have the opportunity to work from home sometimes. My husband, unlike most, is involved in a lot of household chores. Sometimes I even call a cleaning lady to help me.

It’s hard to explain this to people without children. Yes, I chose to have children. I chose this life. However, I no longer own my time. Understand that only when the children come. When the children come, there is no more time to rest. You are constantly on the edge because of something, you are constantly under stress, you are constantly rushing somewhere and you are constantly planning the next thing – the next doctor’s examination, the next training, the next private lesson.

The other day I woke up at half past four in the morning because one child was not well. She woke up everyone in the house with her scream and so my list of invisible tasks for the day increased significantly.

We need to talk about this – to do something changed in the situation of employed parents, especially mothers, but also to instruct people who are planning children what awaits them. Many of them still have fairy tales about children, not realizing that for too long society expects parents to work and raise children in parallel, without any help.

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