Tom (27) always meets the wrong men. Either he doesn’t want anything from them or they don’t care about him. How can he get out of this negative spiral?
Tom (27) simply has no luck with dates: Either the men he wants are not into him – or vice versa.
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About ten years ago I came out and have stood by mine ever since homosexual orientation. However, during this time I was never lucky enough to be able to experience a romantic relationship.
I look average. Nevertheless, men are interested in me who I also like. After one or two dates, however, the interest is already gone, regardless of whether we were intimate or not.
Then there are also many men who are into me, however not my type. I still try to get to know her better in the hope that I will develop interest and feelings. But that never works.
It seems that there are only two options: He likes me, but I don’t, or vice versa. These experiences take away the courage and the joy to get to know someone. Is there a way out of this vicious circle?
I experience in my deliberations again and again that it is not primarily the external circumstances that affect people’s lives restrict. Rather, it is they themselves who make life difficult for themselves with their concepts. This also seems to be the case with you.
There are of course countless options as to how meeting a man could be. But now you seem ready to believe that there are only the two you mentioned.
The way out of the vicious circle begins with you!
Stop restricting yourself through your thinking! And instead invest your energy in the analysis of your loot schemes.
I get the impression that you have very high demands – both on yourself and on a potential partner. And also of the relationship that you would live with him.
Rethinking these claims and changing them so that they reach a manageable level seems central to me, if you want to find a partner. All the best!
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Bruno Wermuth is an individual, couple and sex counselor with his own practice in Bern and Zurich. As “Doctor Sex”, he answers a question about relationships, love and sex once a week. www.brunowermuth.ch
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