Dr. Nestorović: You should enjoy life

When asked what happiness is and how to be happy, Dr. Nestorović in a great interview for Telegraf.rs:

“Ten years ago, I organized a meeting and invited professor of psychology from Zagreb. She had one fantastic example of what happiness is. She took the true example of a man from Zagreb who had lockdown syndrome. Fully conscious but unable to move any muscle. Completely taken away. He said that happiness is when someone is next to him to drive away a fly that lands on his forehead, enters his eyes, nose… It’s creepy. Otherwise, I think, life has its ups and downs… It would be very boring when not it would be so “, said Dr. Nestorović.

Dr. Nestorović lost his mother early, and as he says – it is human life.

– When I think of my situation tragically, I say imagine that you are a Syrian citizen in Aleppo during the war. My fans rushed me to write a biography of my own. I put it all down on paper and it turned out to be about 50 pages with some photos. And, what is interesting, practically since 2000, when my life started well, I have nothing to write. Essentially, everything that is interesting and what shapes you are, in fact, some situations, not tragedies, but situations of temptation. When your life is monotonous, what is going to happen there?

I often quote Orson Welles from the movie “The Third Man”, who says that there was a renaissance in Italy, they killed each other, poisoned themselves , fought, so they made the world’s greatest works of art, and Switzerland had 300 years of peace and made a Swiss coward. It seems that something needs to sting you, that you have to have a pebble, a motive to work. If everything is darker for you, then the principle of laziness works. When everything is comfortable you have no need to do anything. In essence, life is a temptation – he pointed out in the conversation.

When asked what happened in 2000, he said that then life’s problems began to solve themselves.

– My life changed when I stopped looking. When I let go of the flow. I believe that there is some kind of destiny karma, but essentially you have to follow your own inner imperative that leads you. People should not do things that others impose on them. As a young doctor, I was very ambitious. I came from the province, eager for success, money, social prestige… I was terribly ambitious and worked hard. In 1994 and 1995, I totally cracked. Then I suddenly realized it was nonsense. I realized that when I was bad and when I stayed on my own, with family and friends who love me. All those people who love you are gone, because when you are successful and when you have a reputation, everyone wants you… From that moment on, I decided to do what I think I should do. And, interestingly, everything started to agree. Like dice. It’s as if someone from above said: “Okay, now you’ve come to your senses, now I’m going to help you move in another direction.” I worked as before, but I didn’t chase anything. That’s the way it should be in life. A young man should be ambitious but not exaggerate. People often spend their lives chasing something and then when they look back they see that what they have achieved is nothing. Essentially, the greatest wealth is free time friends and loved ones. People don’t understand that. That mobile that is currently very expensive, fancy, will be old next year. It is unusable in five years. Material things are transient. What my grandmother and mother say about the house “whose it was not, whose it will not be”. It is a transient thing, it is not the essence of life. When you are young, you don’t notice it, because you are obsessed with other things. Hormones make you be fast, you like everyone to see you as a guy, then you see that it sucks because at the first turn of a crisis people fall off.

I had two, three such crises in life and I saw a small number of people left. And you who stay, you have to keep them. How many do you have now?
One three, four. That’s a lot. I think most people have almost no one. Unfortunately, people do not appreciate the spouse they are with, and that is the closest person in the world. When you get sick, who are you going to show hemorrhoids to? You don’t want your father, your mother, your brother or your sister. Than a woman and a doctor.

Today, people get married easily, get divorced easily. Marriage is a very serious matter, especially when there are children. People should not give up… Young parents come to me, so they have disagreements about small children. I tell them not to make a problem about everything, they have to learn to be compatible. There is always conflict, we are all different, no one suits us 100 percent, but in the end you hone yourself, learn how to live. Tolerance is a very important thing in both marriage and life. I don’t like those angry people full of negative energy. Anger and hatred are very negative emotions. First they are negative for those who have, and only for those towards whom they are directed. Tesla said that every negative emotion you send to someone will return to the person who directed it. When someone hates you, come back to him harder. What’s worse, it doesn’t have to come back to you, but to your children.